Erotic Spirituality

There is nothing in this world that is unspiritual . Every creature, living thing and the seemingly dead items are being enwrought by Creator Consciousness in a more or less expanded version of Itself .
Sexual Energy when being recognized as Spirit includes our highest Potencial for Selfrealization .
Eros is an energetic potencial bringing us into relationship with Nature, Language, Art and the world itself.
Without Eros there would be no mysticism ,  no devotion in any kind of religion .
It is the driving force behind our urge for Oneness.

As Platon said , Eros is the God who brings  the creative mind into Being.
Eros calls forth the aspiration for knowingness , passionately looking for Union with truth .
The passionate search for ( Re) Union is what makes us drive & thrive,  deep down within  we know about our Oneness with all there is , and we want to experience it ! 

While riding the wave back to the Sire (de -sire ) ; physical union is only one way to come to gether in Spirit . We can use our bodies for the purpose of Union, still for the majority of Beings we come into contact with, Union through awareness is to be prefered.

As we realize that our Life energy shows itself in our bodies through our Sexual energy , we can simply stop  hindering the current from its natural circulation . The essential tool here is our breath . As soon as we remind Ourselves to breathe into whatever comes up , fear , anxiety , the need to look away ,to talk nonesence ..we allow o be devoured by Oneness itself .

One of the most painful moments for me, while sharing this world with my Brothers and Sisters come up when Individuals deny our bond and prefer to insist on seperation.
Than I call upon the words of Byron Katie ” I’m very clear that everyone in the world loves me. I just don’t expect them to realize it yet .. ” 














Orgasmic TANGO

If you would  ask me what activity I  can perform at any time regardless of being tired, sick , angry or happy , I ‘ll say  it is dancing! I am pretty much sure that I will leave this body one day while  either shaking it to the heavens or whirling my soul into the all-embracing stream of consciousness . But that’s not the point now. I am sincerely on fire due to miss – interpretation  & understanding of Men & Women .

When I hear music that really gets me , I am illuminated ! As if someone has pushed a button in my genitals and the energy expended  through all possible venues  , and oh yes there are many pathways willing and open to broadcast my interpretation , my feelings of  the sound of music my soul is singing .

I never had to learn ” to dance ” .  Expressing feelings & emotions  through my body , was  always the most easiest thing to do . An open accessible gateway  from soul to body . No one tought me how to feel and express music ,whoever tried , I didn’t get it anyway  . Just as  in tango , I took one class , never signed up for an ongoing course . I  threw myself into the dance gatherings, had some private lessons and a few workshops, which made me feel  more uncomfortable than satisfied. In short , I know that we do not have to be tought how to dance, we just have to feel the music that brings the juices into flow and watch how  the fear of expressing all that we are melts away  once we dare to feel .

Tango , is  my passion, as it is dance meditation,  dancing with drums…but Tango , oh my goodness , when I do it with a  man who knows how to approach and guide me ,how to literally take me,  I am giving my self completely to him  and Yes I  am having Sex with him . Right on the dance floor . A friend of mine once said , when I left the  floor,  that I have an imprint on my forehead saying “ Fuck me ” .

Of course I make love while dancing, what else can I do when all of me is there ? When I am in tune with my own sex energy ,  I naturally unite with my partner too , that’s just the  result of alignment with yourself  .But this kind of  expression stays on the dance floor, meaning there is no need  to continue with my partner in the bedroom  . Now that is a challenge , for  most of the Men! And that’s  what kept me again and again from living this kind of natural joy of being alive and feeling so ecstatic and fulfilled ,as I did not know how to behave and deal with the Men after ” I turned them on” and did not give, what they understood I promised ! 

They thought it to be an invitation for Sex . Germans ( I started dancing in Germany ) are more restrained  regarding feelings,  and bringing desires  into action, but the French, oh la la ….When I danced the first time in Paris with a Man , and said merci afterwards and au revoir ,  he reacted so puzzled and offended that I withdrew myself for month from the tango scene and suppressed my desire to dance, as I did not know who to be & what not to be and do . And yes, I thought I am doing something wrong ,too much of   expression, too emotional, that I have to deliver what I inspire them to desire ,once  I dare to be so sensual & sexy .

I am enjoying the beautiful weather in Paris and the Tango Milongas outside, in front of the Eiffel Tower or at the Quai de la Seine and I am dancing my ass on & off. Oh, how I love it when I have a skilled Partner who knows  how to guide me , who knows to be the horse whisperer , holding a space in which I can express with all that is me,one  who can handle my sexual energy .  Once a Man in Berlin, with whom I was dancing  in great union ( he was actually a German, in his fifties and full of strength and skill ) ,   knew exactly how to deal with Me  . After a few dances he suggested that we get married as we function so well with each other . I declined as all the other invitations of his precursors and followers, they felt rejected and I moved on  making my way alone from Milonga to Milonga and enjoying only a few dances with these great Guys , asking myself what  I  was doing wrong .

My dear Men,( and  at least one woman ) I love to dance with you ! I love the way you hold me tight and rejoice with me in my sexuality . I adore you for giving me the freedom to express myself how I feel it to be . And I want you to know that  we are having Sex ! We are uniting through a Synergistic Energy Exchange !  It is just a new kind of understanding & expressing . A subtile form of living our sexuality and a very powerful tool of bringing this energy to a level where it can  fill us up . That is the reason why I do not have to continue with you in bed to feel good , I am already full – filled ,  my juices are flowing and growing and…  integrating, union & sharing have already taken place .  I have enjoyed making love with you and  it was great !

When we feel the Oneness between us , the need for physical union becomes needless as we are already experiencing the ecstatic feeling that derives from Union . That is why Buddha was in a constant orgasm , he got the connection  constantly going on ,with all of us ,  a Buddha is always plugged in .But  of course it’s  great to remember the bond through conscious  practise and just for the pleasure of it, but thats another pair of shoes …

I am looking forward to create my tantric Tango workshops and  to share my approach of dance with  all of you , bringing your fluids into fluition and inspire you to express your feelings, to  enjoy , sense & feel each other, just for the sake of the  magical satisfaction of the  orgasmic Dance .

Au revoir & Namasté

Sandra Kokic


I recently had a sexual healing session  with a Tantric Sex Guru via skype that lasted about six hours .  I learned a lot from one of his students , a woman who did sexual healing work  with Men .  I heard  that this Man can make you come without even being present in the same room,   deep, full body orgasms , one after another.. .only through the energetic presence that is build up between you. Nothing has to be inside of you , no one has to play with your clitoris .

It  is all about energies, all about feeling   the liveliness that builds itself  up inside of your body .Through  the experience of  orgasms that involve the whole of your being , not only the genital body area, stuck resistance  is melt down  and  negative, locked emotions are transformed into a flowing stream of passion, life energy , love  & joy  .The more you practise that ecstatic state the more you come to realize the inner booster that is dwelling inside of you ,waiting to spread itself out into every fibre of your being and literally bringing your juices into full fluency.

Of course I wanted to experience these orgasms , but I only booked a personal analysis session based on a concept of Spirituality & Science , called Human Design . Though I knew intuitively it will continue further, but I did not imagine that I would be gifted with  4 and half hours of moaning, breathing, rejoicing and crying  ..

And yet, I could have been breathing deeper, moaning louder and whining more expressively,  but I did not . Because of the mother that was speaking in my head and residing in my womb . Cause of the stories  I was projecting onto the woman who let me a room in her house and who was lurking around .Whenever I would “feel” very intense , my mind immediately popped into the experience reminding me to shut up.  After my first Orgasm I relaxed much more and previous concerns left me. And at that point I connected with my emotions, my pain and my anger .One Orgasm than crying , being angry , Orgasm and an ongoing twitching of my body that even continued into the next day. In the end I was a twitching & giggling clump lying on the bed.

” You see ” , said the Tantric Master, ” how you are still carrying your mother in the belly , not allowing yourself to live in your fullness only because she did not do so ? Life is offering you a gift and you are still concerned about what your mother is going to say when she hears you enjoying sex… that is simply missing life .. ”

I was even willing to cancel the session after two hours because I could not relax with the voices in my head, that the Lady could hear me . I rented a room from an older woman  , and I realized how many stories, mother stories I projected onto her but I was not aware that I was willing to deny my sexuality out of loyalty  . And that was the golden thread in my life story . To deny life out of loyalty to the woman who gave birth to me and sacrificed all of her pleasures.  The so-called mother wound . Children keeping themselves small to not risk any enviousness and resentment of their mothers.  Unless we heal it , realize the stories and deliberately choose new ones , all abundance will simply be repelled when knocking at our door..

Life gave me the opportunity for grieving . Where else can we connect with our emotions in such a profound way than in our sexuality ? I touched upon the overwhelmed inner child, her powerlessness, her fear and tremendous anger , the divine rage that wants to be heard . In love-making, sexual intercourse we have the ability to transform our negative emotions into a colourful bouquet of enchanting scented flowers . We can truly become a vibrant rainbow . The Man’s Penis is the magical transformer , the head of the Penis burns the tension, the pain, the anger stored in the womb, and reveals an amount of love that therefore nourishes his own heart . In that sence the cycle of Ying & Yang becomes complete .

Women are carrying a psychological wound in the depths of their vaginas .Guilt and Shame  stored in the hidden chamber down under fertilized with rage and negative energies infused through Men that have been deprived of their masculinity  , first from their mother and then  their wifes . That is the anger we could feel if we are sensitive enough.  When Men would allow themselves to feel their penis during sex , they would feel all of their  suppressed emotions, and they could transform them as well through their breath and the woman’s love . Unless that awareness takes place we  can never be ” filled up” with restoring energy.  The woman will receive an unconscious Penis that is simply pouring its own tension into her womb . A Penis that fucks its own mother who cutt off his balls.  Men are carrying the wound in their hearts .The wound of not being allowed to feel, not being allowed to cry. Woman’s nature is to love, to share the love out of her heart, Man’s nature is to share his Manhood through the potency of his sex organ . That’s how we are perfectly created to heal & restore each other. To fill us up . To beam again . That is the true meaning of  faire  de l ‘ amour .

The Master made a vow once, that he will never let a woman leave  unless she has come to experience the fullness of her Womanhood . Unless saliva is pouring out of her , embracing the strength and divine authority of an authentic Man . He would have continued with me , but I really had to finish our ” conference” . When  I mentioned my concerns of being loud, he said I could  share with the Lady the most amazing sexual experience of my life and she would maybe rejoice with me and we would end up in tears together . But I was not so courageous .  I went out of my room, the Lady  sneaking outside asking me if I have at all left the house today . And I said , ” No there was no need for , I just had the most amazing sexual healing session of my life on skype , 6 hours of love making ….”

Au revoir & Namasté

Sandra Kokic